Learning opportunity here. Next time that urge to lean in hits, remember last night.
DBing isn't about DBing perfectly. It is about DBing better over time.
IC isn’t totally sure if DB’ing applies to my sitch. Though he did recommend TDR and MWD to me. IC recommends asking W about what I can do to help take away some of her anger (resentment is reason in his eyes for no sex / intimacy). He also recommended showing SOME vulnernability emotionally (not become a blubbering wreck). I go back and forth on IC. Or maybe I should just bite the bullet and call the phone numbers at the top of this page.
Taking some advice from this forum, combined with IC advice, I told her about dinner plans for our 7-year. IC’s advice was to give her a choice—I did, and she said she wants sushi, so will go ahead and work on that. I also closed by telling her to ‘wear something nice’ for that night.
