Steve, The funny thing is she doesn't understand in the slightest just how difficult she is making it for herself. She avoids any communication with me regarding the actual S and just does what she thinks is best for her. Not sure what her thought is behind some of this stuff but it looks like she is just trying to, and thinks she actually is escaping financial responsibility and dumping it on me. Where I live 50/50 is automatically assumed from the date of S until legal D is settled and that includes all finances. She doesn't seem to realize that she can run all she wants, I will keep looking after the expenses on my own and she will get a large invoice for her half if and when D comes up. I wanted to keep things as smooth as possible but i need to protect myself and am willing to pay a lawyer what it takes to do that. For now all I need to do is keep the records up to date.
Exactly. It is the wayward/walkaway fog. Reality eventually smacks them in the face. The sooner the better. Which is why I started walking back her "easy D" promises right away. She was trying to take the easy way out: "I don't want any of "your" money." "You keep the house and live in it with D14." "We can file for D online for $250." After I got my feet back under me I told her: "You will get half of everything. Including debt, retirement accounts, etc." "We will sell the house and split the equity 50/50." "I talked to a lawyer. I am not comfortable filing for D online so when I file (notice I am taking control) I will file through my lawyer."
3 fantasies bubbles with images of unicorns in rainbows on them, and I burst all three. Stuff just got real. Doesn't work with every WW, but with mine it sobered her up fairly quickly.
Last edited by Steve85; 12/05/1802:32 PM.
M(53), W(54),D(19) M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017 Ring and Piecing since March 2018
