Sorry to read about the D, Harvey. I can tell you it's just a piece of paper (it is,) that people do sometimes reconnect post-D (they do), or that it is your W's loss (it is), but I'm sure that is cold comfort right now.
Don't even bother yourself worrying about how she is reacting. There is an expression in Spanish "Caras vemos, corazones no sabemos" (faces we see, hearts we don't know.) Who knows what is going on underneath the facade. But, that isn't your problem any more. If you are keeping busy and comfortable in your own skin you are in a great place to move forward into the next chapter of your life. Keep GALing and working on yourself.
Good stuff, David. I think I'm ready to move to the Surviving the Big D forum.
I'm at peace with myself and the sitch. I'm a good guy. I did what I could. It's all about moving forward. I got great advice here, but ultimately I think I answered my own "Why Keep Hope" question. My answer is that you don't. When WAW wanted D, my marriage was over. Once I lost expectations AND hope, I was much better off. Does that mean I could never see myself getting back together with my XW? I'd say it's very unlikely (she'd have to work on herself), but you can never say never.
