Did, like the others said you need to do a reset. Your behavior towards your W has been very passive/aggressive, especially these last couple of pages. She has got to be really confused. You're pulling her in telling her you'll always be there for her, and that you are her family and such, then push her away with stuff like the "no thanks" about the candle ceremony. You are swinging from one extreme to the other when you should be in the middle. What is the middle? No affection, no dating, no offering to save her, but it is being kind, friendly, neighborly. I don't know what is involved in lighting the candles but it doesn't sound like a romantic thing but rather something for your D, so why not. But inviting your W over for movie time, no don't do that. Remember, you don't need to react to her right away. If you're confused about how to respond to something she texts then come here and ask first. You might need to ask a lot of questions over the next few weeks to get help on how you should be behaving. After a while you won't need to ask anymore. You can do this, you just need some direction I think.
