Stereotypical LBS

[Twofeet]

Ryan,

Whatever the circumstances (WW, WAS, MLC) it does seem like a common theme is varying levels of escapism. They all run off to a fantasy they have created, while most LBS are left holding pieces of reality and what they thought they had (often a fantasy). The sooner we (LBS) face reality and discard the fantasy the better off we recover and grow. It appears that from what I have read here the WW/WAS/MLC sometimes get slapped in the face with a good hard dose of reality and hopefully, but not always recovers from the escapism fantasy. They also sometimes never abandon the a escapism fantasy and take their problems to the next part of their life, relationships, etc.

Your W might wake up a bit as things get serious. I know for the 2 months my W was in the house post BD she started to really understand the realities of S and D. Mostly, because I shoved reality in her face so it could wake her up a bit. She would get a bit fearful at times and want to know what I was doing, and if I was talking to a lawyer. Once she figured that I didn't want to see the ship sink in flames she chose to go back to fantasy land. Since we don't talk beyond kids and finances I don't know what going on with her, but from what I can see it appears to be more of the same. Ignoring reality and seeking escapism.