It was her sitting there waiting for you to initiate when she wanted to so badly, but since she always did, it would come off as desperate and needy, so she pulled back and anxiously awaited for you to initiate so now she can engage.
It was good then that I waited and made her wonder for a couple of days.....builds attraction. The coach does say that as L indicated but he also advises men to stay off the phone and subscribes to the theory that the phone is for making dates not getting to know someone.
IDK.....maybe for 2 people that don't have kids and can see each other frequently I would agree but for older adults like us with kids, jobs, parenting schedules etc. I find that it is difficult
It was good then that I waited and made her wonder for a couple of days.....builds attraction. The coach does say that as L indicated but he also advises men to stay off the phone and subscribes to the theory that the phone is for making dates not getting to know someone.
IDK.....maybe for 2 people that don't have kids and can see each other frequently I would agree but for older adults like us with kids, jobs, parenting schedules etc. I find that it is difficult
There is no real attraction or sexual tension yet, J, you haven't even met in person!
Building interest, yes.
And yeah, let's get real, in today's society, we connect via phone and text. If you don't have a date in one to do days, and you got to wait a whole week, you need to stay connected even minimally.
LH, yes A man should pursue in the beginning. I am not completely discounting the coach. Can't do that until I read the book, which I most likely won't do because I ain't got the time.
Yo M! It has been an adventure for sure! I remember the very first date I was on I was like a deer in headlights. She was very nice to me but she totally knew I was a rookie.
Oh and she is still texting with me!
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I agree G....I do think texting, calling etc. is needed to stay in contact. This girl and I only live 12 miles apart from each other however in separate towns. While that is close we will still struggle (if it goes past the first date) to find time to meet up every week because of our children, their activities, and parenting schedules. She has hers full time and sometimes the dad will take them and sometimes he won't (according to her he is an alcoholic). Granted her son is 16 and her D is 11 so they are old enough to be left alone but mine on the other hand aren't of that age yet. I am getting a cell phone for my oldest for Christmas so I would feel comfortable leaving them at home for a bit assuming we went out to eat in my town and I was only 5 min away. I do leave them home alone for an hour or so when I go to the gym in the mornings but I go at 5 am and they are still asleep.
I mean obviously if this materialized into something and at some point she met my girls and vice versa it would be a little different but still time together, alone will probably be a premium especially if she continues to travel for work like she does.
I am not saying anything is going to come of this but whether it is her or someone else it would be an issue unless our parenting schedules were perfectly aligned or if she didn't have any kids at all.
My XW BF has kids that are in college so when it is not her week with the girls they probably spend every night with each other and I assume he probably comes over 3 to 4 nights a week when she does have them.
It is indeed super tricky with kid schedules. You need to stay connected somehow. M and I are on the same weekend schedule, which helps. I only have one night a week to myself and we make a night we can see each other. D11 can stay home alone for a period of time which she does after school, then she will stay home while I go to the gym for an hour less than a mile away from home. I have never left her alone to go see him, even in town. She is an only child and not a big fan of being alone unless her best friend is over.
It is a puzzle that needs to be put together by both parties, but you can cross that bridge when you come to it.
