My updates are sparse as things have just settled for me and I am way past the aftermath of the BD and wanting to reconcile the M. I have put the separation agreement process in action and it should be a smooth path. W and I agree on everything and now the L's are just drawing things up and we'll sign it by the end of the month. Right after that I will be filing for D and we should be able to do it jointly and save on L costs. The D process takes a bit of time, but it is just bureaucracy and waiting for it to get firmed up. I don't see any change in course from W. She had the opportunity to talk to me when I put the separation agreement process in action, but I got nothing from her.
It's all good. I wasn't starting all of this up as a temp check tactic. I am done and wanting to close this chapter from a legal point of view. We've been living like we're D for the last 18 months and this is just putting a fine point on it.
I have decided to start dating in 2019, with or without D papers finalized. D is just a procedural thing now.
In the mean time, I have lost 20 pounds over the last 12 weeks and my knee is close to being fully healed. I should be able to start working out fully and climbing by early February. I am super excited.
For the newbies, I am sorry you're here, but you're in the best place here. There is life after all of this and time and internal work will bring you home to yourself. Stay with the DB principles and do the work. It might not save your M, but will definitely save you. I am proof of that. And there are many of us here who are living full and joyous lives.
