Davide - While it did not bring us closer to R, I think it did actually help my situation. This is the first time I stood up for myself. Like really stood up. And when he threatened divorce I just said "ok," which made him backpedal. He saw this time that I was mad and would not let him walk all over me.
Steve85 - We have our parenting plan drafted but a judge won't sign it until we file for divorce or legal separation, which we have not done yet. We are going to start financial mediation next month and then he wants to file for legal separation...or divorce...depending on the day. Either way, this agreement wasn't in the parenting plan. Our lawyers said even if it was it's something the court would enforce.
Honestly, of course it hurts to know he is dating the OW again. But I processed that about two weeks ago when I confirmed it. I went away to Hawaii for Thanksgiving and he sent me all those messages about missing me and loving me and then he blew up on me. I realized then how manipulative he was. It actually helped me move forward more. In fact, while I can't control it, maybe him seeing the OW is what's needed for him to realize what he's lost in me and that his affair fantasy isn't so great when it becomes reality. Or maybe he won't. I don't know. But I'm actually ok with either way. I used to pray every night that he would have a change of heart. My prayers have now changed...I just pray that I will get through this and be happy...soon.
So now, my anger stems from me not wanting her near my kids.
