Wanted, step back and breathe. Do not try to solve problems you do not have.
As far as helping her move, you will get split advice on this. My advice is to never help her with something you disagree with. Personally, if she is moving it is on her to figure out how to move her crap. Others will say that a little sugar here goes further than vinegar. Follow your gut.
I'd personally let her know that you are not lifting a finger to help her leave. But that is me.
Wanted: Imaginary problems don’t make real problems better or go away.
I’ve also thought about this when / if W drops S / D bomb on me. Fat chance I’m helping you pack up, move out, whatever. I put together most of our present townhouse / living arrangement. She can barely clean up stuff on the floor on her side of the bed.
