1 year in, and still surviving

[peacetoday]

I know-
D seems to be the new normal although not so easy, the kids adjust and many of their friends parents are D so its common these days-
The more I practiced being ok and available for them to talk-the better things got here-

Today they are both doing very well-I mean extremely well adjusted for young adults-
dad left at ages 5 and 11

practice being OK around him- listen to him and spend time together with sports or what activities he likes

speak only good words about the MLCer and when it appropriate I always have said DAD Loves them

he is just in crises and sometimes people get sick-mentally or physically(not their fault)
Yes it hurts when people get sick or leave-part of life also-
I reassured them I am here forever until the end-and even then I will love them and watch over them forever


to this day they still believe that DAD loves them--they know-he is just sick and unless he gets better they cant see him-
they don't question it--they know it is not them-but him-