I don't know about the letter stuff-I have seen that on TV but never personally witnessed anything like it-
You say you need to move out because of "stuff" that is happening and around your children Will the children be with you? Will they be safe with her?
MY XH Family also rejected the OW (new young psychotic wife) they refused to allow her in the house or any events. My kids never met her..they moved out of state MY XH chose the OW over his family-His sisters have not heard from him in years
Time is really the only way you will know No way to know which way they turn and sometimes they go one way and then change or breakup ect- You wife seems to have one foot in reality -she is cautious-she wants approval-shes in therapy time will tell
married 14 years H 42 bomb 2/07 IDLYA D final 3 /09 M ow D ow