I think this is a good reason to seek out IC and/or a support group.
Originally Posted by Turbine
Talking to someone that tells me to give up? To move on without her? I fell apart again this morning. Twice. Or it was a breather. My W would be far more beneficial to my health right now. Except right now she doesn't want to be my W, my Mahal.
I don't think an IC should be telling you ANYTHING like that. They will certainly assist you in validating your feelings - that what you are going through is so, so difficult. We certainly do that here but there is something very helpful about having a real person in front of you that is there to work with you.
Along the way they may help you see patterns about yourself you may have been unaware of, or assist you in talking through some of your decisions. But they are always your decisions, not the IC. If an IC is telling you what to do you most likely that is not a good IC.
It sounds like you've known some people who've had some bad experiences with IC. Please don't let that deter you. And if you decide to give it a try and find the IC you meet with is a poor fit for you, by all means change and find a new one. That is expected and encouraged.
