13 yrs and two kids pt. 2.

[Hurt213]

Update:

So with the search for advice in the tread above, I forgot to ask the following:

My plan is to NOT do anything family related with her, basically keep my path clean, and DB, 180 and give myself space to heal / and yea give her space as well. I am in the MBR when my kids sleep, and she and I are in the house together.

My question is: Do I pick up on her smalltalk when we are together with the children, I mean by that, should I be happy, content and be cheerful, or do I just answer as short as I can, and show her, that I really don't want to talk to her ?

I mean, I do want to, but Im not sure I should? don't know if that makes sense. I got the 180'ing going for me, and I am doing a lot of out of the house activities, and I really really enjoy spending a lot of time with my children (180 on cutting down work, prioritizing doing things with them without the possibility of the phone interrupting etc).

I also feel like I wrote, that she is no longer a necessity for my life, but would be a nice addition. However, I don't want to ruin anything, so the way I interact with her is still hard for me to understand. I don't want her thinking I am her plan B, however I want to show her, that I am a man only a fool would leave.

She seems determined to get out and stand on her own two feet, and see what life has to offer (according to her letter, she can't stay because of the unknown possibilities in life), and I think that will be the endgame. If that is the endgame, so be it. I won't stand in her way, and I am sure she has signed the final house papers for the new brokers by the time I get home tonight. I just have to DB to my best, and see what the future brings for me and my kids.