13 yrs and two kids pt. 2.

[Hurt213]

Thank you all for the feedback.

This morning I went to the gym at 05.00 and was home at 07.00 again. They hadn't left for daycare yet. WW was busy making herself ready, but she ended up asking me, if I had changed my mind about my incoming birthday - she didn't want an answer there, but it would be great if I would just text her today.

Yesterday evening she was in the livingroom and I in the MBR. I came out to get my vitamins, and then she said "congratulations". I looked at her and said, "huh?". Yea congratulations on becoming an uncle (my sister is pregnant, and its wonderful news in all of this, however I haven't told her. She found out from the social media announcement. Should I have informed her? I think not (or else I would have of course). She even "liked" the announcement text on social media. My sister texted me, and said that she found that really weird (WW lied to my sisters face about affair, and got emotional support for 3 weeks before WW was revealed, so my sister doesn't really have much patience for her as things are now). It would suit her, to just mind her own business according to her.

So I slept on all the information given to me yesterday, and yea, I am going to DB like I didn't receive anything, and stay the course. I am positive, that the opinion of the vets here is, that of course she doesn't participate in my birthday, and I am asking advice for the following basically (yea I am asking before reacting now!).

So 1. I really think I "react responded" to her mail yesterday. And I like the response, that Steve wrote as an example: Would it be bad / wrong of me, to say that I slept on the matter, and that this is what I came up with (insert Steves response and then finish it with, that I think that it is best, if she doesn't attend my birthday with the kids, since it isn't something we should do together anymore" <--- I have to answer her regarding tomorrow anyways, but yea, I need some vet advice here please.

2. She wrote a text this morning with the following content: "I hope you arrived well at work. I was wondering, if you shouldn't attend the parent meeting tonight instead of me, then I can use the evening preparing the house for the brokers who are coming tomorrow? Can you pick up the kids and take them to gymnastics? Today is making of christmas stuff at work (elementary school). Maybe you should take the kids to daycare tomorrow morning? and then pick them up again after the brokers have been at the house? Of course it is your own decision, but just an idea..."

So I don't know how to respond to that.. I read it like "So I kinda blew my cover yesterday and showed you that this is hard on me, so today I need to be firm and show you, that I have no remorse, and want to just get the house ready and get it sold asap". This is of course my interpretation and maybe its nothing like that, but I need advice on how to respond to both cases, and I would love to do that in just 1 text, so I don't come off as needy with multiple texts and I really don't want a conversation with her.