Therapist says we aren’t compatible very rarely does she say you’re done but she says there is too much damage. W says she can’t be herself around and me and that she can’t be herself around her family. Or anyone she really cares about. Basically agreed it’s over and to divorce.
I still feel like if her self worth was higher we could work. On the ride home w says she saw a therapist two weeks ago. And that she is one of the most emotionally centered people therapist has seen but so much trauma and damage. Says victim of abuse in marriage. She’s not in a place to be in a relationship or give.
Also said a narcissist will never admit it or work on it. And that I’m beating the odds.
I’ve made so many mistakes. Us being together two months ago made us both move backwards in our progress. She told me she wasn’t ready. I should of listened.
Is it even worth going dark and DB and LRT. I see no hope. I wish there was more I could do. Or just agree to see mediator and D.
Feeling empty and hollow. Thanks for the support. I should have been a better listener to you guys and stronger.
You just need to settle down. You have plenty of good things in your life. Focus on those.
Your therapist saying you aren't compatible is dumb. How the hell would she know? And who would be "compatible" with what your wife is doing. Your wife is all over the place. She needs a Did who is not all over the place if she is ever going to settle down herself. Read my earlier post. Act like that. You don't hate her, but you are giving her tough love.
It is definitely worth going dark, you have never given yourself an opportunity to calm down throughout any of this. Quit talking to her, you'll settle down and be happy. I know it, I can read and see what kind of guy you are.
H 34 W 29 BD 3/12/18 Divorce Busted Spring 19
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