I'm sorry to read that you are considering bringing up divorce. I know you are living in the moment, aware of reality, and it's kinda sad. But I think you have accepted it, the worst is behind you, and for that I am happy for you. I am going to advise you not to discuss splitting things up yet, because I think you cross this bridge when you get there. Your wife isn't taking advantage of you financially, right? If not, I don't see the need to rush things if you are truly still hoping to save the marriage.
I'm glad to hear you are having some fun in the dating world, that probably feels great. Given your sitch, it seems to me that you may be overanalyzing things a bit.
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She constantly used to tell me how my bad moods would affect her, and how she couldn't be happy if I was unhappy. I want someone in my life who takes responsibility for their own happiness.
I don't see this as an entirely bad thing. I think someone who says this is trying to show you that they care. Your temporary moods should not affect your partner's overall happiness. But the day in, day out moods are going to affect a relationship no matter what "emotional boundaries" a person has.
We'll see what some of the other folks say, I'm happy to read you are still progressing emotionally and mentally.
H 34 W 29 BD 3/12/18 Divorce Busted Spring 19
It is not things that bother us, but the stories we tell ourselves about things.
