I am really settling into the new norm nicely. Friday night took the kids to swimming lessons and dinner afterwords, Sat morning was running the kids around to all their activities. Then me and S7 finished up the Christmas lights and we all headed to a movie. Sunday W didn't show until noon to pick them up so I enjoyed some extra time with them and made brunch. Took advantage of my free Sunday afternoon and got a hair cut, did some clothes shopping, hit the gym, went and visited a friend, and did some work on one of my hobbies. All in all I am making the most of my time with the kids and without and am really just enjoying each and every day. One thing that has had a huge impact is shifting my mindset from "have to" to "get to". Everything that I used to label as good or bad I now look at as more of an opportunity. I was terrified of being a part time dad, now I see it as an opportunity. I get to take care of myself, I get to see friends more, i get to go shopping without chasing 3 kids around the mall. On the days I'm with them I get to make the most of our time, I get to read to them at bed time, I get to take them to the movies and other fun activities. This new mindset applies to all aspects of my life now and is having an immediate and large impact. I have a long way to go especially in the detachment area but I am comfortable accepting the sitch and comfortable with the idea that it is out of my hands and all I can do is move on.
