OK here goes first post... pt 5

[ovrrnbw]

A couple of week ago I did a 180 and I sent a message to W on eldests birthday with a pic of their 1st birthday. I put Today is to celebrate ******* birth. I was there at your side throughout holding your hand and supporting you as our baby entered the world. It was the birth of our family. We shared the special moment. That is what life is about. I hope that you get the time and space to figure it out before too long as every moment is precious and those moments are being lost. Forgiveness is a decision. I want to do the right thing, do you?

What was the point of saying this to her? This is clear pursuit, she's made it clear she doesn't want you. This is day one stuff!

I got back a message back saying it was a wonderful miracle day and that she was 'truly completely utterly grateful for that'.

... but she's since bought a new car and the kids say she was going to put it in her parents name (obviously W and her parents planning for a future divorce). A couple of days ago at a kids change-over W gave me a couple of old photos that I'd not seen before that I was on, not her and said she thought I'd like them.

Keep records of this in preparation of the court case to come. Don't read anything into her giving you those pictures.

6 months of separation and suddenly I feel like I've hit a wall because I miss passion, affection and love. I feel sad that W has gone so low being dishonest in the things she has done; sad for her and the kids. I wonder how much longer I can wait hoping that she will realise what she's done wrong.

I feel like calling her out saying that she has been deceptive for years and my gut feeling that she wasn't committed was right. Any advice?

Quit hoping she'll "come to her senses" and get on with your life. She may never come back from lala land, but she'll stay longer when you pursue and feed her cake.

She doesn't care that you miss passion, affection, and love - so keep it to yourself or tell someone else. Like us. And we've heard it now, so it's said. Now you need to get over it.

What will "calling her out" do? She'll say nothing that you want to hear, even if what you say is right. So don't.