Concentrate on what you can control. You. DO NO TRY RESCUE HER. She doesn't want you to rescue her no matter how bad she looks.
Let's talk about wanting a D. As I said before, eventually your desire to heal and move on will outweigh the "I don't want a D" stance. As in, "Yes, I will take a D over this." BD is almost 15 months ago. No one would blame you for moving forward with a D at this point. But make sure you are all in on it before doing it. Regrets are not fun to live with.
M(53), W(54),D(19) M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017 Ring and Piecing since March 2018