Hurt... I don’t think your W wrote this with any “plan”. Clearly, she is seeing you change. She is struggling with this. I think she was sincere in what she wrote and I think you handled it reasonably well. I think if my H wrote me a letter, it would be similar to this. He has told himself for so long that happiness lies outside of our R, he feels compelled to find out. Your W wrote that she is very afraid that if she stayed, she would only do this to you again. She needs to have the experience of standing on her own two feet so I think you should just let her do that and wish her well... as hard as that is. I think she was honest in saying she is a “complete mess” inside. I’m sure she is. She knows what she is leaving...she still feels she has to do it. She needs time and space to get herself sorted out. If she does not get that space, her confusion will just continue to increase and she will blame you for it. Keep focusing on you and making those changes. You will be better for it. And let her go...with love. (((HUGS)))
