so that was a CAT 5 hurricane type letter. i see some hope for you in what she wrote if the OM sitch is not a deal breaker for you. thing is words are not actions. look you were hit hard with serious waywardness from her so again give yourself grace on "screwing up". polite empathy with what she said would have been enough. so long as OM deal is going on, you are going full speed opposite direction, moving on. you pursued, showed some of your cards, etc, but hey you have been basically abused by her and so when she served up what she did to you, you swung for the fences. for me with the devastation that she has already wrought, what you replied with ain't the biggest of deals in the grand scheme of things. next time "words" come to you, empathize "I'm sorry you feel that way, this must have been very difficult for you, etc", but keep your feelings to yourself and stay away from what you think she's feeling or how what's she's done has impacted you. "maybe" way down the road her ACTIONS change but for now let her deal with her own demons. you have more control/power in this sitch than you realize if you can find the fortitude within yourself to leave her be and walk your own path.
