I am new here.

[Ready2Change]

HI Krull,


Sorry to read your story.

You can not control other people. You can, however, control yourself and how you respond.


I am all about doing what is right for the kids. (IE keeping the family together) Your sitch is tricky since S is not you bio child. Definitely get legal advise ASAP. Let us know what you find out.



You will be walking down several parallel paths during this process. One of those paths is reflecting on your behavior during the R, making positive changes to assure that you do not find yourself in this sitch again. I lump this into Personal Growth.
I will assume you have NGS (Nice guy syndrome) like most of us did when we showed up here. It is really hard to see how our own behavior is unattractive. Then the bomb.


Focus on your personal growth. Do research on what woman are attracted to. Confidence is at the top of the list.


Pursing is NOT ATTRACTIVE at this point. Do not pursue her.