Agree with job

Do not let her get under your skin

If she wants to talk about d stuff

Maybe set up a time and place without kids to do that

Do not avoid it

Gordie 40s W 40s M20+ kids
2016 BD W fantasy affair w OM1 I do everything wrong
2017 I start to DB W says TLTL files for D PA w OM2
2018 I do LRT W drops filing and OM2 situation slowly improving