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My W is doing all the things that I need to be doing

I hate that feeling! So you and I have similar thoughts/feelings about our Ws. The calm, collected walking away, the way they are moving on and building a new life for themself the way we should be. It’s disheartening at times. And it really does make you feel like they’re way far gone, relative to the flaky/rollercoaster WWs that many people are dealing with. Generally speaking I think this is a common feeling once there is physical S. Yail and Twofeet are dealing with similar stuff. On the other hand I’ve read that this isn’t necessarily a bad thing and suggests that we are further along (and thus closer to any potential future R). Plus having the time/space to improve ourselves, when the emotions are bearable. (My memory isn’t great right now, so if you aren’t physically S then disregard.)

Is there a point where it becomes unhealthy?

What becomes unhealthy? There’s nothing unhealthy about regaining your “integrated male” self (as portrayed in NMMNG), doing things for yourself, and reading and working on improving yourself. Those are things we all should be doing to foster healthy relationships and a healthy sense of self. And those two things go together.