If you advise her that the child is asking about the visit, then it is not pursuing. Why? Because the request is not for you to have her share the day. It is about Christmas and what your child would like to have in the way of a visit.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
