Uncertain of What I Have

[Adam04]

Adam,

Still don’t especially like her calling me by first name, but I guess I shouldn’t get bent out of shape when this is the same woman who has claimed she isn’t sure she even wants to be M to me. So why should I get worked up about pet names?

I did address her by her first name earlier this evening, in asking her a question about our YS. She didn’t sound like she was ready to hear that from me (her reaction seemed surprised). I’ll have to keep this up.

Is your first name that bad or something? j/k

Be strong Bo, slow and steady. Take time to process your emotions and try not to get caught up in the moment. Be careful you're not doing it to evoke a reaction from her, but I get it, you don't like the first name so you giving her some of the same medicine. What would happen if she said something different, would you be okay with it? You should be if you were detaching and not having every little thing she says or does affect you.

Don't pressure her about the anni. I had mine last month(14 years married, 24T) and I don't think we told each other happy anni or anything like that. It was before I found DB so I made rookie mistakes of trying to do something nice. She said it felt like pressure. In the last 4 months I can see how many mistakes I made and they got me nowhere. I can tell you that you will need to be patient and allow time to work its magic.