Uncertain of What I Have

[Ready2Change]

Yes, do not initiate.


Here is how I word things with my lady :"Would you like to join me tonight to listen to some live music?"

(I communicate that I have already decided to go. She is free to make the choice to join me or not. I am fine either way, but I would prefer her to join me.)


So as far as your anniversary, this is one option. Get as many options as you can. Evaluate each one. Then choose one.

Figure out something fun you would like to do. Lets say it is live music.

H:"W, Band xyz is playing at 7p on Dec 16. Do you want to stay home and watch the children that night or should I find a sitter?"

Then watch VERY CAREFULLY how she reacts.


She will be confused (Which is what you want)

One because it is your anniversary but you did not bring attention to the fact.
Two she is not sure if you are asking her to join you.



Worse case she says she will watch the children, you go enjoy the night.
She may start asking questions. What questions might she ask?