She brought it up again through email then said email wasn't the place to discuss it.
I talked to D last night and she is okay with a 2/2/3 but not with staying at Moms every night. She said she like to stay with me. xW said it was us who was making the decision, not her. (Good, glad we cleared that up so that what she wants can't me used against me.)
xW said 2/2/3 doesnt resolve the current problems, so which I asked what the current problems are. She talked about consistency and D wanting to feel like a child without adult responsibilities foisted on her. (uh she has no adult responsibilities) and wanting to be solely responsible for school stuff (Um then why are you always late?)
This was my response to her. I'm curious how you all feel about it.
The Children have a consistent morning and night routine. D and I now each have a checklist to go through each night to make sure that nothing is missed.
She is allowed to live as a child. She has no adult responsibilities pressed upon her. I cook the food. I do the laundry. I pack their lunches (unless she wants to help, in which I let her). She doesn't babysit her brother.
The example you mentioned about her waking me up sometimes was explained to you yesterday. This is NOT a common occurrence, multiple alarms are set up on purpose. And we still make it to school on time.
When D was missing karate with regularity, I did not attempt to alter the schedule. When D has received multiple tardies at school, I did not attempt to alter the schedule. I have never missed a piano lesson.
I have offered the change in schedule that I am willing to consider.
To clarify: She pays for piano, I pay for karate. I have asked multiple times for her to tell me if she couldn't take her to karate, and I would do it myself.
Married 9: Together 11 M:37 W:35 S:2 D:7 Bomb dropped 6/3/2017 W moved out 7/1/2017 Separation Filed: 8/1/2017 Modified to Divorce: 8/21/2017 Divorced: 10/5/2017
