We already split finances 6 months ago. I’m just going to say something like I want to be with you but I can’t in the current situation.
I find myself doing absolutes. I’m either too nice or too mean. She was just at the ymca where D4 is in school. She was going to workout. I find myself being angry and cold. Giving short answers. I didn’t say bye and just walked away. I then texted her and said I should have said bye. Have a good workout. D4 has a winter program tonight at 515 school ends at 315. I live 30 min away. W invited us over for pizza before the program.
What are you doing?! No, do not say that! I want to be with you, but not like this? Why do you even need to say that? and the goodbye thing....
Steve is 100% right, being so impulsive and from one end of the spectrum of the other will surely get you D'd, and if not, stuck in the same unhealthy dynamic.
Sometimes the best action is no action. Just stop and be silent.
