I feel like once I read something from Steve85 that said he did intentionally make a point known to his W that her request for D would not be so simple. Not in an antagonizing way, but in a "you need to be realistic about this, I am a person. you are Ding a person you need to communicate with" type of way. I don't recall exactly where I read this, but the action was subtle. It sounds like I'm trying to manipulate, but I guess that's what is on my mind. She is not in charge here, despite our history of that being the case.
I do know that I'm trying to read the future. I'm trying to stop. But I'm so convinced that this MLC will pass and she will wake up and think "WTF did I do, I tried to run away from my problems". I know to have no expectations, but I'm just so aware how firmly in denial I am. I feel like I know I'm "right" in all of this and that she's "wrong". I feel like I still know her, but that is not true. I realize this is not a path to growth or acceptance.
I think part of my struggle is most folks here are having temp checks and back and forth so you can see the spouse's path of retreat. You can see the pursuit dance. I don't understand W's path of retreat. It was all of a sudden and then it was 100%. I don't wish to have an IHS as they sound horrible, but not seeing W leaves me just completely in the dark. I definitely feel abandoned.
In some ways, this way may be "easier". We don't have kids. Our finances have always been separate. We don't have the IHS, so I don't have to see her. But WTF, STBXW. What happened?
