Last Sunday I gave her my number and asked her to give me a call so we could coordinate meeting up for a drink. She texted me, never mentioned us getting together but wanted to talk on the phone. Ok...fine your not comfortable yet and you need to vet me some more. So she called on Monday, we chatted for 1 hr or so. She called again on Tuesday and we chatted for roughly 30 min. NC on Wed. I sent her a text yday am wishing her luck on her preso. Then she dropped me a text this morning saying she was heading home and we had a brief 10 min exchange.
I have no problems directly asking anyone out, suggesting times and picking the places. This one was different because she has been out of town all week and at 5 am in the morning probably wasn't thinking about what her schedule looked like for next week. I assume she wants to reconnect with her kids, get back into her routine and once she is settled we can coordinate meeting for a cocktail.
I wanted her to know that I had not forgot about us meeting for a drink. This is the second time I have brought it up and more than likely I will follow up with her on Sunday and set something up specific as she should be back into her routine by then. The first time she did not bring up meeting however this time she said "for sure!!" She knows.
As far as giving out my availability first......it is a strategy so if the girl comes back and suggests dates that I originally said I was not available I don't look all desperate and like I don't have a life (once I commit to my availability I am not going to change it just so I can match hers). I don't want to give the girl the appearance that I have nothing else going on in my life. So I make her tip her hand first.
I also don't ask if she would "like" to get a drink with me. I assume it already because I am quite the catch and I just flat out say...."Let's grab a drink this week. When are you free?" My view point is that she should be lucky to be out with me and I assume that is why we are chatting. I don't try to hide my agenda...I try to get to rejection or connection as soon as possible.
