Oh, and it works in the reverse. I told M the other weekend "I am free after work, would you like to do something?" he said yes, then I had a great idea of a place I knew he would like, I made the reservations, AND I paid. But I took control of that particular date instead of bouncing it back and forth and assuming.
You know a big part that got us all D'd and having to date again? lack of direct communication, lots of assumptions, and waiting for the other person to do something about it.
