I am still standing with my daughters

[marina7]

Sia,

My heart goes out to you, I know every word you write, and can feel
your pain. Especially with younger children's and the holidays around the corner grrrrr...

Just know your doing your best at a time like this.
Is ok to have a bad day or sad day.
I remember yesterday I cried at therapy office and said
I am so angry at myself after 1yr and 8 months I still cry
Abd care. Therapist replies is ok to feel this way M.
And you will feel this way for a long time.

So that being said is ok to feel Sad and miss your old H.

Also I know what you mean about H planning trips.
W and I was in mediation which been tough and hard.
W could only think about getting passport for kids for W and OW
Can take a trip to Disney Cruise. I was like WTF
I was in all. Is like our Spouses don't see nothing wrong. Is freaking
Bat sh&t crazy but trust me your not crazy.

They have a way to cope with crap.

Unfortunately our kids don't become there priority the Other person
becomes there every thing.
And this is why I am my kids everything they see mommy is their for them

So I ask you to keep being there forget about H. You keep fighting for those
Girls. I will say this yours just started I been in court now a year. Kids have a Guadian ad litem
Is a mess. But keep log of everything times H don't pick up, or late or anything that will
Help you in the future. Financially keep everything that shows if H doesn't help with Daughter's
Because at the end the Guadian ad litem will ask all the proof. I just gave her 2 books of journal
I been keeping when kids are sick in W care or not sleeping well. W driving with kids at 2am in the
Morning. My kids are a little older so that also help me.

So please keep everything noted safe

And remember court don't care about he said she said. They hate pitty party
Always stay strong and firm. Don't become a Victim in court they will notice it.
Keep your point straight and forward. As I did I simply kept my story the same.

Trust me MLC Spouses will drown themselves Why.. because there' stories changes
Constantly and the monstering comes out in court. Always stand strong.

Remember your the stable parent. Trust me they break. My W at first did good.
But as time pass and more courts W slowly started breaking, stories changing
Blaming the world and even me for everything. All I did was listen and never
Showed my angry or sad side I would have my breakdowns after court.

So stay strong for your girls...