Forgot about the whole ‘believe nothing they say and only half of what they do.’
Need to keep that in mind W/R/T her talking about the Christmas gifts she is getting me. Believe none of the verbiage, and only half of the action.
What hurts the most about her telling me not to take the lack of sex / intimacy personally is: within the last week or so, I saw that she stationed a, well, let’s call it a ‘personal item’ that she could use while she showers at night. To me it seems like her showers at night have been really long. I saw it there once, but I’d be lying to myself if there aren’t other times. She doesn’t want to be touched or intimacy, huh? Ok sure.
With detachment, I shouldn’t take it so personally...but still hurts.
The ‘believe nothing they say’ part should especially hit home for me, because in the weeks and months before our youngest S was born in September, she talked about how much she would need me and want me to be home. Our current state of residence offers a fairly generous paid family leave program, so I took off about 3.5 weeks paid to be with her and BabyBoy. Even while I was home on leave, she talked about how nice it was for me to be there.
At the end of my first week back at work in mid-October? She again tells me how unhappy she is and floats possibility of separation. She needs me, huh?
