In a moment of weakness about six months ago I did one of those reverse email look ups to see if my H was on any dating sites. I got one hit so I set up a fake profile on the site just to see if he was on there. So, I went about setting up a fake email account and a profile on the site - I had to upload a picture (so I put a pic of a tree) and my entire profile was blank apart from a coupe of tick box questions that you had fill in (age, ethnicity, religion, height). I lied pretty much lied about all of it because I had no intention of ever using the profile for anything other than to snoop. Then I cast my net wide (all of the UK, male between 25 and 45 logged in in the last year) - the only thing I was selective about was the things he couldn't lie about (his ethnicity, his height, hair color etc). He wasn't on there.
That tree had over a 100 likes in 2 days and about 50 messages in the first month. Goes to show you those sites are nothing but a meat market and you can have a blank profile with a picture of a tree and someone will still get in contact with you. I am not sure if this is because men aren't very discerning though For a while, it was a running joke in the office "how's your tree doing FS?".
I did the reverse look up using my name and my real email address and it found me on the same dating site so suspect the reverse email was a bit of a con.
You are right, now is not the time to be on a dating site. You need to find you first, the strong, confident and authentic Harvey who knows who he is, is happy with who he is, and who has forgiven himself for his past mistakes.
When you're ready to take that plunge - a couple of extensions on AS words ..
Whilst I was on there I did have a look around a little and the profiles that caught my eye were the ones that were funny and a little self deprecating - the profiles that told a story and where the stories were written well with humor and depth. Men who sounded like they were aware of who they were, were happy with who they were and who were able to find the humor in things. Like AS said, I looked at the photos and was drawn to those where the men looked like they were having fun. So photos, lots of photos of you DOING THINGS. Lastly, there were a lot of separated/divorced men and I liked the ones who were honest about the fact that there children were their first priority.
For a while, it was a running joke in the office "how's your tree doing FS?". 
