Originally Posted by Grace21
It forces us to find ourselves, and our happiness is not attached to our spouse any more. It comes from within. I scares me a bit, though, as I worry it means we will never be able to R now.
I’m seeing a few similar comments today, maybe because I’m on the lookout for them, maybe because I’m starting to feel it myself. But I do think, if the received wisdom around here is worth it’s salt, that this moment represents a turning point. It’s the point at which we feel furthest away from our spouse and have the least amount of hope for R. And yet it sounds like this is a point we have to reach, after which the potential for R becomes greater, not smaller.


H: 35 W: 33
M: 11 T: 13

4/10/18: I discovered A and confronted ("BD1")
6/23/18: I moved out
8/31/18: MC ends ("BD2")