Introduction

[Twofeet]

TJT,

Are you seeing an IC? A really good IC can help you work through your problems and help you with improvement. One thing my IC helped me with is the communication dynamic between men and women. In general men think and communicate in a very logistical method. They are wired to compartmentalize, literally they have more neural connections than women in certain parts of the brain that result in this. Women on the other hand think and communicate from an emotional base, and have more neural connections in certain parts of the brain than men that leads to this type of thinking and communication.

You also mentioned that you and your H are introverts, I am in the same boat. As you probably know introverts especially of certain personality types internalize emotions. We feel just like everyone else you may never see it. It can definitely cause problems, it did for my R with my wife. I didn't really know how to deal with this until talking to IC. As far as my MR its unfortunately very likely too late. If you internalize emotions in the MR its definitely something you should work on. If your H does this, well nothing can be done about it unless he addresses it in IC or its something he works on if you were to ever recon.