Getting Mixed Signals - New Thread

[Living]

Hi Living,


I assume you still want to save your M. It is all up to you right now. Your H does not have the skills or the support system you do.


You are in the right state of mind to do the necessary work.


Boundaries work. It is important that you communicate clearly to H so he does not make assumptions.

Here is a frame work. Can you take this, fill in details, add or subtract, rearrange and post for input from us?
(Not now, but at some point, you can speak the final version (or a note) to H.


W:"H, I have thought about everything you have said and want to share my thoughts with you."
W:"H,I see many solutions to our problems"
W:"H, I want a husband that .....Bla bla bla bla..... Right now, I do not see you behaving the way I need my H to behave."
W:"H, If you are not willing to......Bla bla bla..... I will Start the Divorce process."
W:"I have decided......"
W:"It is important to me to make sure we both understand each others side"
W":"I know for certain I never want to be in this sitch again"
W:"I want us both to be happy"



I wish you well during this most difficult time. Just know that life does get better either way. D or R.

HUGS

[quote=Ready2Change]Hi Living,


Thank you Ready2Change, you’re correct I must have boundaries now. My husband is doing too much and I’m tired of being hurt. Thanks for the communication tips. I’m not beating around the bush.

I’ll keep your frame work statements in mind. I’m too exhausted to even have that conversation with him currently. But thank you so much for sharing it. That is a valid conversation that in the future shall be had. Right now, I just don’t want to see or talk to him. I want him to stay away from me and I’ll stay away from him. He has his space and I have mine.

Thanks for the hugs! I need them and I pray for better days. I know the sun will shine tomorrow!