Introduction

[Twofeet]

People (and women in particular) have a way of painting a super rosy picture on social media even when they are falling apart IRL.

Well, my life is falling apart and I'm definitely not painting a rosy picture on SM, haha. I have not really been on it at all, for the very reason that I don't want to be "fake" and it's obviously not necessarily the best time or place to let people know what IS going on, the way I'd like to at least.

On the other hand, my H is painting a rosy picture not even on SM, but in real life, to everyone he encounters. He is happy and this doesn't seem to affect him. He said he's happier around everyone but me, and I know I'm not THAT terrible even if I have my moments. It's absolutely him compartmentalizing what's really going on within himself.

So, I think the statement is more appropriate for anyone who has done something they're not proud of in general. People who are guilty and in denial of the things they really need to face and own up to or just generally address. It's a coping mechanism, so still validates what you've said about not using it as an effective gauge of true feelings.

I am moving this over to your thread from burned.

First and foremost, I absolutely abhor SM. It think SM is a big part of the reason why our culture has just gone down the sh!tter. I think SM is good for businesses and that's about it. I think personal SM has been eroding society, and adding to the whole me first instant gratification of our society/culture.

Anyway, your H is probably feeling great because he is shedding off what he sees as his problems. However we can't run from problems because they always catch up. I don't think you are terrible, he just hasn't had enough time to feel any regret or remorse, and if he does you may never know. Men compartmentalize. I do it all the time, its how I am wired. He may be feeling guilty and overcompensating. Why else would he be happier around everyone, but you? He likely feels guilty for what he is doing to you.

The important thing is to figure out what you did wrong on your side of the fence and make corrective actions to better yourself. Be the better you.