JMSTL Thread 6-Let's go for a test drive

[Jmstl]

Well, it has been nearly 10 months and I have been with the same Lady. Things are going well.

The kids just met her last weekend and they love her. D has already asked 3 times when she can come over again

I got another call from xW this morning regarding something she brought up before

Currently we do an alternating days and weekends schedule since we have 50/50.

For the second time she has brought up that she wants the children to be with her full time during the week for consistency with school. She said I'd be allowed to still pick them up and spend time with them a few days a week but I'd send them back to her to sleep. I am effing furious. That gives me like 3 hours to spend with my kids on those nights. Most of it wont be at home either because of drive times. So basically I'd be her babysitter, activity chauffer and chef. What BS.

She said she wants to be consistent for school, and be responsible for ALL school stuff, since occasionally I miss a school thing or two. She also brought up how D said she has to wake me up a lot and she doesn't like it (She does on occasion, I have sleepapnea) I explained that D is a super early riser and that even when she occasionally comes and wakes me up, it's because she is doing so early, or that only my first alarm went off. (I have 3). EVEN THEN, We get everyone ready, have time to stop for breakfast and STILL get her to school on time. xW doesn't have a sleeping disorder, lives .5 mi from school, and she STILL brings D to school late on a consistent basis. So please tell me where the problem is again?


Firstly. Just no. Anything less than 50/50 is just plain and simple no. This is my line in the sand. She offered to let me have them for 3 weeks during the summer. Uh no.

Second-I agree that rotating days is a lot, and like last time I brought up a 2/2/3 or a 4/3 schedule that would offer a little more consistency. And yet it was rejected.

She has stated that she wants the schedule changed by January when they go back to school and said she wants to work it out between us, but will get a mediator if she has to.

I'm not paying for that.

Would a mediator HONESTLY take 50/50 away from a dad who is actively involved in their childrens life? I've offered solutions that maintain 50/50 and offer a little more consistency in who the children are with. like WTF?!!


Sorry, I really needed to vent.