Why Keep Hope, Part 2 (Here's To A Better Me)

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Harvey,

I, too, filled out an online dating profile. Not sure why. Maybe because it feels like it will end up being the next step I will be taking and will help with detaching right now. I haven't been that active on it and I can't be "found" publicly at this time.

It's a totally foreign dynamic. Online dating wasn't around the last time I was single. I used to joke with my friends how awesome Tinder would have been when we were in college, haha!

It also helps me to realize that there are a lot of very good looking women on there that have their status as "divorced." Between this forum and that, it's sort of a good reminder that a lot of people have gone through what I am, currently. I don't think I'm at a point where I would enter into a semi-serious relationship, but it would be nice to interact with some women who show general interest in me just as a confidence builder. Like I said, right now I don't show up publicly. I only show up to those that I have "liked." My status is currently separated so maybe that scares some off, I don't know. That and the range of my searching is quite vast since I'm in the middle of small town America and distance might be a turn off to most.

The part that gives me anxiety is actually reaching out...what do you say as an ice breaker?! I've always been sort of the "shy guy." Was never the outlandish, outgoing dude that would just walk up to girls and start talking. I guess I'm going to have to get over that fear, if you want to call it that, for it to ever work.