1. Don't do anything social out of the house with her anymore (she doesn't get that luxury / she has given up that opportunity).
Correct!
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2. Only answer polite and in short sentences when she initiates conversation about the kids / ignore conversation related to anything else (except financial / custody stuff). <--- I don't know, LH you say NOT to talk at all, and Steve says to (if I understand right), listen to all smalltalk and validate?? So what exactly do I do
I meant to say don't initiate small talk and don't linger around for small talk. "Sorry can't talk gotta run"
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3. Stay out of her way. If she is in the house, kids are sleeping and im in the house, then I go somewhere for my self.
Absolutely!
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4. I will enforce my boundary about OM talk by simply leaving the room if she begins.
Correct! I would say a firm "Please do not disrespect me like that" walkaway
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5. I will let her leave (house is for sale, financials are basically taken care of) - I have said my peace - and I am not gonna stand in her way.
Yep
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6. GAL a lot, 180 on my known problems and heal through detachment
Abso fuching lutley!
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My birthday is coming up next week: I am saying today, that I would appreciate it, if she doesn't buy a present for me, and I would really appreciate it, if she would refrain from buying a present for Christmas as well, as I don't want anything from her. Is that a bad idea?
Bad idea! Your'e trying to get a reaction. No talking!!!!!!!!!!!! If it's from the kids open it and thank her. From her I would say no thank you.
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I am just going to say, that I will appreciate some drawings from the children, and thats it. Furthermore, I would like it, if she could go and be somewhere else on my birthday, as I am taking the day off, and just really want a fun and happy day with the kids, and she will ruin it.
