Introduction

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TJT: I wanted so badly to reply to all of the different things you said.

I wrote a really long post with quotes and responses and all that.

Then I thought to myself: she's a lot like me, and that's fun and reassuring. But wait a minute, if she's a lot like me then maybe she gets stuck in the same patterns that I do. You said you were an introvert, no? So am I. And the problem we have is that we live our lives in our heads, not in the real world. We sit around and think and talk and ruminate until the cows come home. Does it help us? It soothes our fears, in the moment. But do we benefit, in the long run, from short-term avoidance of pain? Maybe thinking and talking and ruminating is a way to avoid the harder stuff.

Let's take a different approach today. It's time for action. Nothing crazy. But this is a DB forum so let's refocus. We're both afraid of the machinations of our spouses as they secretly prepare to crush our hearts yet again. What's the antidote?

GAL! So GAL, gal. Do it. And then report back to us. What did you do? How did you feel? Were you able to stop thinking about H, even if it was just for 10 minutes?