Weathering the storm (pain18 DB VIII)

[Twofeet]

W asked me why my energy was off. I told her that I'm fine. She asked if I was angry about the IUD. I said it is none of my business

Right there is where you stop. The rest was just wasting your breath on your W.

The IUD is not a revelation or a shock at all. It's just feels like yet another middle-finger to me and the family (not even thinking about MR). The way she talks down to me seems downright condescending. She says she values my opinion, but it does not come out as genuine.

The middle finger came at BD, this is just now her bad choices not yours. And No she doesnt value your opinion and why should you care. Let go P!

I do realize again that I am still grasping to who my W WAS and who my W IS NOW. The realization is coming in small pieces, but my overall feeling of her has changed significantly in the last 4 months. My old W is not coming back. I don't know what form she will come back as, but I do know it will be very different from here on out.

Buddy, you are grasping on who YOU think your W was. Maybe she was who you think she was maybe she wasn't. The important thing is that you should hold on to the good, learn from the bad, and move on. If your imperative is to R with her someday its not going to happen until you let go. If it does happen its not going to be what you had, it will have to be different to get different results.

Her actions fuel me to be AMOAFWL. My physical transformation over the last four months have given me a tremendous boost to my self-esteem. I look more toned, more muscular, and dare I say it...sexy. I lost two pants sizes. Yesterday I donated four pairs of my old jeans because they got too big for me. My mental and emotional transformation is a work in progress, but all of you can see who I am becoming. Many have noted at how I have changed since I first started posting here. I'm excited to continue to put in work and see who I will be 4 months form now.

I am the better individual. It's validated by so many around me. My D4, my mom, my co-workers, just to name a few. I just want to keep improving. It's taken me longer than I hoped, but I do know and feel that the changes I am making are genuine.

This right here bud, this is the mentality you need to have. My only 2 cents is that its nice to be validated by others, but you don't need it. Validate yourself. Keep building your inner strength to go along with your outer strength.