Uncertain of What I Have

[SteveLW]

Ah ok. Well I can relate. Neither of us left the marital bed through my sitch. I don't know if others who didn't have that dynamic can relate. It is HARD not to initiate affection in that case. But I can tell you from experience that the less you do, the more she will. My W was the one that started kissing good night again. We had a SSM prior to our sitch, much of that was due to her not getting her emotional needs met, and my NGS tendencies. Pull back on all forms of initiating physical affection and you may see her start to initiate.

Also, once your sitch is ready for it, look up talk and touch charges. I wouldn't institute them now, but once you start to see her soften some I think they can work wonders in reconnecting. Again, don't start them now. But be prepared to institute them at the appropriate time.