We have all seen the veterans mentioning time and time again to have no expectations ... It's the negative ones that I think often are overlooked, expectations when nothing has happened like "Because H/W has acted like Y lately I expect I will be D in the near future and its done". Or the expectations that the story is over because H or W is moving out after a lengthy IHS.
I think the key to all of this is to really master having zero expectations either way. To 100% commit to the fact that we are on this journey and to simply live our lives one day at a time in a manner that leaves us feeling good at the end of the day. None of us have the slightest clue what tomorrow is going to look like, good or bad, so any kind of expectations good or bad serve no purpose.
I'm guilty of this. It's a tough balance in not being in denial and not giving negative expectations too much weight. I feel like sometimes to get to our next level of detachment we have to fake-it-til-we-make-it. ACT detached until you really are. ACT like you don't have any expectations until you really don't.
And to a certain degree, if we don't have SOME kind of expectations, how do we truly prepare for all situations? If we expect to be D we can do our due diligence in protecting ourselves. If we just leave it up to fate and focus only on ourselves and GAL, can we really prepare for each situation as it comes? Or are we always just reacting on the fly? I'm someone who does better with a bit of mental preparedness, so do I just expect the worst, but give it up to the universe to determine the actual path?
