After 14 months your family still doesn't know about your sitch? I can only imagine how hard it would be to keep up that facade after so long.
I'm sorry that your H is still so out of it. But, let that text go. Our mind's tendency is to read into those things, but we know how fruitless that is.
Give yourself and your D a big hug from me as well!
W 34 Me 42 Married 7 years together 8 0 kids 1 beloved dog BD 4/6/2018 I moved out 4/7/2018 I moved back in alone 8/05/2018 I file 3/06/2019 D official 5/7/2019