Re: Moving past the WAW to a stronger me Pt. 5

[Davide]

Nicole,

Thanks for chiming in. Like I talked about in my previous posts, don't let anyone "should" you about the decision to date or not. If you have no interest that probably means that you aren't ready, or at the very least it isn't something you should pursue. We are all different, have slightly different situations, perspectives, and values. You simply do what is right for you and your values.

For me the important thing is to be open, to be receptive to new experiences, to broaden my world. For the last few years of my marriage I was narrowing my world to the point that the only thing that mattered in my life was the MR. It wasn't healthy for me or for the MR. It suffocated the life out of both of us. Life almost always offers such a wide variety of experiences and people into our lives if only we are open to them and willing to look outside of ourselves and our own neuroses.

I have no expectation or hope that my W will magically be attracted back, nor is that my motivation. Seeing her recently it was clear how fragile she is emotionally. For years she was progressing and growing as a person while I stagnated, but the roles seem to have reversed now as I have embraced the challenges of introspection and self-growth (out of necessity). I loved her and a part of me will always love her, but I want to be with someone healthy who can reciprocate love in a healthy way.

Best of luck with everything!