I'm planning on telling her what AS said that the research I did is that it is geared toward troubled marriages, not parental communication.
I'm not going to stop her at all in moving out as I do think it gives her a chance to "lose" some things ( being around the kids every day, etc.) and possibly miss me.
I am going to go dark, detach and focus on the kids. I'm planning on going to my GAL that I originally intended to do and she can take this weekend to move her stuff out while I'm not around.
M: 34 W:34 D:7 D:6 S:3
M: 9.5 years T: 12
OM found & BD (by me): 9/19/18 IHS begins W informs me she's moving out: 11/28/18 W files: 12/21/18 D Final: 2/25/19