She just text me now that she has come to the resolve that the chance for R for her is not there anymore.
She said WHAT???? Oh my gosh! I've only heard that about ten bazillion times on these forums! Like, every single person who's posted here has heard that, most have heard it multiple times, even those that later reconciled. WAS's always always always speak in absolutes. But that's only how she feels at this moment, it could change in a year or a month or a day or even in 5 minutes.
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She said she would go to better our communication as parents.
I really don't think it'll have much value to you as a couple because it's not about parental communications, it's geared towards saving troubled marriages.
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She also informed me that her plan this weekend while I was gone was to start moving things to an apartment.
I agree with LH, separation hurts at first but will really help with your detachment once you get used to your "new normal". It will also eventually help her to learn to miss you.
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I'm at a loss of what I should do now. I don't really feel like going anymore.
You might tell her you've been doing some research and that since it's geared towards couples you think it would be inappropriate to go right now and ask her what she thinks (I still think it should in the end be her decision whether you go or not). In my case it was my ex that wanted to go, and she indicated that she was open to saving the M. As it turns out she really wasn't, but I was taking her words at face value. Still, as I said before I'm glad I went and I learned a lot even though it didn't change my sitch.
